why wont bf use sex toys with me

I’ve been in a committed relationship with my bae for the past few months now and I love him deeply. We are both passionate about intimacy and are always open to trying new things in the bedroom. Recently, I approached him with the idea of introducing sex toys into our playtime, but he was quick to reject my suggestion. I’m not sure why he won’t give it a try with me – it feels like such an odd thing for him to reject.

At first, I thought maybe it was because he was scared of the unknown – maybe he was scared of the idea of exploring additional pleasure. I thought maybe he thought it would make him less of a man or like he was not enough as is.

Unfortunately, that was not the case. He told me matter of factly that he’s ‘just not into it,’ and that he didn’t want to open that door any further. So, after that conversation, I was left feeling confused and frustrated – what did I do wrong, or sex toys what didn’t I do?

Maybe he has some negative perceptions that are making him feel hesitant or embarrassed. Sex toys can be a bit taboo, so he maybe he doesn’t want to open up a can of worms. Or he may have some insecurities that make him think introducing sex toys could ruin something.

But I think he’s missing out! Introducing sex toys to our shared intimate experiences could increase our pleasure and bond even more. Not to mention, the added fun of exploring something different and new.

I know couples face numerous issues within their relationship – especially regarding intimacy. Many times, the downfall is caused from lack of communication and not really understanding exactly what each other needs. That’s why I’m so confused about why he won’t use sex toys with me.

A couple of weeks ago, I finally gathered up the courage to ask him why he didn’t want to try sex toys and he just shrugged it off and said that he’s ‘just not into it.’ I asked him what it was about it that he didn’t like, but he just kept giving me the same answer. I even asked him if it was me, but he assured me it wasn’t.

I’m still baffled as to why he won’t let himself explore this aspect of intimacy with me. I was hoping that I open this door – I hoped this would be our first step in trying new things together and that he would be open and willing.

I know that relationships take time, effort, and compromise. We need to figure out a way to both get what we want in the relationship, and not just what we think we should want. Open lines communication is important, so we need to find a way to talk and really understand each other’s needs.

I’m certain that sex toys can enhance our experiences together and can be a great addition to our lives. But I guess whatever the reason for his rejection is, I’ll respect his decision and take things one step at a time.

I’m not sure if he would ever consider exploring sex toys with me, but I know he loves me and I’m always here to talk and really listen to each other. Maybe someday, he’ll have peace in his heart and soul about this whole thing, and he’ll accept my suggestion. It’ll be a great start to the journey of experimenting with sex toys and introducing novel ideas into our lives.