I still remember that I saw this post about Mal Malloy masturbating on the internet. It shook me to my core, to be honest. It felt like a massive slap in the face and I was so taken aback. Who on this earth would make such a post? I mean, why was it even necessary?! I was really flabbergasted and kind of scared, to be honest. I mean, it’s a really personal thing to put out there on the internet.
It got even worse when I started reading the comments. People were making all kinds of nasty remarks and trying to shame her. I felt so angry to see such a gross show of disrespect. It really showed how narrow-minded some people can be when it comes to stuff like this. It made me really sad and it made me rethink my own prejudices and those of my friends and dildos family.
It got me thinking, what does it mean to express yourself or to even talk about sexuality in an open and healthy way? What does it mean to feel comfortable with your own body and be in control of deciding when and if you share your private life? It got me to consider my own biases against such forms of expression.
Still, the post had a silver lining. It showed how it’s possible to be vulnerable, daring and free. Despite all the backlash, it was really empowering to see Mal Malloy sharing something so intimate and being unbothered by other people’s judgment of her. In a way, she was standing up for herself and her right to do whatever she wanted. She was standing up for the freedom to be sexually liberated.
Mal Malloy’s post gave me food for thought. It made me think that talking and embracing sex in an open and safe way is important to our overall wellbeing. We all have a right to express our sexuality without being judged or shamed. Furthermore, we have the right to keep it to ourselves if we chose to. Mal Malloy showed that it’s possible to be your own person without caring about what other people think.
It also reinforced that freedom to choose what we want to do, say or feel is an important part of being human. We all deserve the right to own our bodies and the things we do with them. No one should be judged for celebrating their sexuality. No shaming, no controlling. Just understanding and respect.
The whole Mal Malloy incident really made me reflect on the way society deals with sexual matters. We need to open the dialogue about statutory rape, age of consent and consent in general. We need to educate, understand and stand up for those who can’t or don’t have the right or strength to do so.
Moreover, it made me realize that it’s okay to aim for a healthier relationship with ourselves and our own body. It’s okay to take charge and decide what we want or don’t want when it comes to our own sexuality. Masturbation can be a liberating and empowering practice if we choose it to be. It can be a means to reconnect with our body and express ourselves freely.
That’s why it’s important to fight the stigma surrounding masturbation. We must stand up for ourselves and for others. We should not be ashamed of our bodies nor should we be scared to talk openly about the things we like or how we practice our sexuality. We must also understand that masturbation is a healthy choice if we decide to make it so and it has nothing to do with disrespecting our bodies.
Besides, it’s a personal choice. We all have the right to choose what we want to do when it comes to our own bodies and we all have the right to do it without being judged or shamed or having someone else controlling our actions. All these choices should also be respected.
Talking about sex without the pressure of a religion or dogma is also essential. We need more space for dialogues regarding all of them — from the biology to the safe practices. We all must stand up and demand more sexual education and sex toys-positive, safe spaces. We must remember that freedom of choice and expression goes beyond some posts on the Internet. We need to think on a much bigger scale than that.